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Please Stop.

(Note: I've met people who've done this. And I can't keep silent about it anymore)

Why? Why do you do it? Why do you have to pretend that you are depressed so people can turn their attention to you, too? Why do you use it as an excuse?

Why?

 "I'm depressed because my friends cancelled out on me"
"I'm depressed because my boyfriend hangs out with his friends more than me"
"I'm depressed because my friends are busy and i have no one to talk to"
...Not quite.

 There are people out there who needs to be listened to. There are people out there who needs serious help. Let me tell you the difference between sadness and depression.

You see, sadness is a human emotion that is normal for all of us. Everyone experiences it. People feel sad if there are disappointing, hurtful, or difficult experiences that come along. Which simply means that we feel sad for a reason. Once we move on from a hurtful situation, our sadness disappears.

Depression is an abnormal emotional state. It's a mental illness that could affect not only a person's emotion, but his behaviour, thinking, and perception as well. A person with depression does not need external factors to feel depressed. Even if there aren't any difficult events happening, depression can still arrive. Even if a person is with his friends, in a party, or in a fun gathering, he is not safe from feeling depressed. People can look like their lives are pretty good, and they can admit that they have good lives, and yet, they will still feel horrible.

I don't get why people would want to be depressed. Is it because it's a trend? Is it because it seems everyone has it?

It's getting up everyday telling yourself that you should get up because you know you have to even if you strongly want to just stay in bed because you don't see the point of getting up. What's left in life to get up about? What will change today when everything is the same? It's convincing yourself that you should at least make it through today. It's hoping you can make it through today.

It's withdrawing from society.
It's when you're with friends and you suddenly want to withdraw because you know it came, and then you'll feel restless, and you just want to be alone.
It's feeling as if you're worthless
It's thinking that sleeping eternally will end all these demons whispering inside your head.

PEOPLE WHO CAN'T DO ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE DEPRESSED WOULD WISH THEY DON'T HAVE THIS ILLNESS BECAUSE THEY WOULD DO ANYTHING JUST TO BE ABLE TO DO THINGS THAT THEY NORMALLY USED TO DO.

Depression changes people, okay?

And hell I miss who I was when I was still okay.

So please. Stop. Stop thinking that this illness is okay to fake. Because I wouldn't wish this for anyone.
Rather, if you know that you can help someone who needs support, do it.

Listen.


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